Why is Letting Go so difficult and so important?

When it comes to transformation and changing your life, you must let go of the old ways of being to create space for you to create and usher-in the new ways of being that you desire.

It’s physics. Two ways of being can’t exist in the same place at the same time.

·      You cannot drink daily and also experience the peace and health of a non-drinker.

·      It is difficult when you constantly find fault with your partner in your mind, to also experience the nurturing container of unconditional love.

·      When you cling to your pain and identify as a victim, it is challenging to create a consistent experience of pleasure and power.

One of the strategies I re-route the most often in working with pattern change is people’s tendency to use NEGATIVE emotion to fuel a POSITIVE result.

Examples of this might include:

* Using the shame of being dependent upon alcohol to motivate yourself to stop

* Disliking your body so much that you use that disgust or discontent to motivate weight loss

* Being so fearful of being abandoned that you have to be perfect in your relationships

What if growing, evolving, transforming, and changing didn’t have to be this way?

What if you didn’t have to think the worst possible thoughts about yourself in order to inspire the best results?

Not only can you grow, but it can feel GOOD getting there. At the very least, you don’t have to feel so bad.

When we think awful things about ourselves, it always shows up in the results. So bludgeoning yourself into your desires can’t be fully working for you.

Step into growth that feels powerful and aligned and inspiring!!! Step into my six-month Transformational Coaching Experience where we BREAK THROUGH old ways of being that keep you stuck so you can be FREE to create the life of your dreams.

My life today is far from perfect, but it is so much different than it used to be. Better. More expansive. More possibilities. True and authentic to who I am as a person. I’m proud of myself and who I am and how I am living.  

Before, years ago when I used to drink alcohol (it feels so good to be able to say it like that!!!), I was in a CYCLE of COLLAPSE. What I mean by that, is that I drank alcohol on most nights, so whatever growth or goodness I managed create by day, seemed to be swept away by the actions of the night. I was essentially running in place. I would wake up feeling terrible physically, mentally, and emotionally. Then I would spend all my energy that day trying to get back to regular, to come home that night only to set myself back by drinking again. Rinse and repeat. For years. 

Heading into the New Year brings a lot of excitement and hopes for change, but I can guarantee one thing and that is this — NOTHING CHANGES IF NOTHING CHANGES.

So many people expect that simply *hoping* or *longing* or *wishing* for things to be different will somehow be enough for things to change. The deep yearning that we do feels angsty and powerful enough internally that we think it will be enough to move us.